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Hello! Long time, no speak. How are you all doing?

I have to admit, it’s been a while, and this blog has sadly been put on the *cyber shelf* and got a little neglected and a little dusty. I decided a few months back that I should start a-fresh, blow the dust from the screen and put fingers to keyboard, and now here I am.

To cut a long story short, since I’ve graduated, I just wanted a break from being on my laptop… or should I say try and stop the impulse clicking on the New In section on the Topshop website… (habits don’t die hard) and also the fact that my laptop officially broke a year back and I confess, I’ve only just got it fixed.

Although this is no excuse for shelfing the blog, it’s been a pretty busy two years and as 2019 is coming up, I thought I’d reflect my two years with you. Kind of like a catch-up for what has been missed on the blog I guess and to share with you my New Years resolutions which has actually inspired me to kick start this blog back in action.

So let’s start with an update…

New career – 

As already mentioned I have come out of uni, and you may already be well aware of this by viewing a previous blog post on my blog titled ‘Post Graduate Depression‘ where I talk mental health and the struggles I have personally faced. For those of you who may not have read this, the title pretty much tells you the story.

Education has been there majority part of my life, and for it to end so abruptly has been a lot to handle and finding your feet in a career that you have always wanted isn’t a piece of cake. If you’d like to read my blog post on Post Graduate Depression click here.

I can announce the tables have started to slowly turn and career-wise I finally got into the sector of my dreams, Marketing. 

One step at a time, I’m starting to feel more in control of my life. Still a long way to go but finally I feel I’m getting somewhere!

Councilling –

This is a biggie for me. One of the reasons for me to press hold on this blog has been the fact that I didn’t feel in the right space of mind. I will write a post on my councilling experience in the near future. So watch this space.

What I’ve learnt from these two years…

  • To be more confident – Stop caring what other people think and just be you.
  • Think more in a positive light – Let go, surround yourself with the people who matter and put in the same amount as effort.
  • People do change – Friends change and sometimes the flame does burn out. This may seem a simple and obvious lesson to you, but what I have learnt mainly from this is you can put all the effort into a friendship but it has to work BOTH ways. Sometimes you can’t force that relationship to work.
  • P.S I’ve learnt that midi skirts and leopard print are my new fav thang… where u been all my life?


New Years Resolutions…

  • Be healthy and mindful – This year I would like to eat more healthy and be more mindful on my lifestyle and change for the better. To encourage this, I will be posting some health/lifestyle entries on the blog about my journey.
  • Save – I’d like to have my own house by the end of the year. 
  • Read more – This resolution was previously mentioned in an older blog post to do with New Years Resolutions… 365 Days, 365 New Chances to view click here I can say I have kind of achieved this but it’s a continual resolution I want to make sure I stick to.
  • And lastly, post more to my blog and bring you along on my life and journey.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post, and I am looking forward to sharing more with you in the next upcoming weeks. 

Sharney x

DEMENTIA AWARENESS: ARE YOUNG PEOPLE EXPOSED ENOUGH TO THE ISSUE?

Dementia, Lifestyle

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Ok, so this post is a little bit more personal and close to the heart.

Anyone who’s witnessed a loved one’s descent into Dementia will know how heart-breaking it is, young people like myself aren’t shown the dangers and consequences that Dementia causes, and this is why I feel the need to write this to show young people like myself, that it is important to be “in the know” and to show other young students and teenagers out there that have been affected by the disease that, you are not alone.

Dementia is caused when the brain is damaged by certain diseases such as strokes, the most common cause of dementia is Alzheimer’s disease. The symptoms that someone with dementia will experience is unique in different ways to who it effects, especially within the early stages.

According to Alzheimer’s Society, it mainly affects people over the age of 65, 1 in 14 people of this age group have dementia and it’s predicted that 850,000 people in the UK have been diagnosed with dementia this year. However there are more than 40,000 people in the UK that are under 65 living with dementia.

If these current trends continue to proceed and no action is taken, the number could possibly rise to 1,142,677 by 2025. Sadly, there is no current cure for the disease, however there is a range of support, therapies and activities that can help someone live well with dementia.

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When my granddad, John, was diagnosed in his late 50’s, it was a hard time for my family. I’d spent years doing my own thing and wasn’t in contact with my granddad for a long time thinking that we’d have lots of time to get to know one another properly later on in life. Yet I was wrong, after my grandmother suddenly passed, my granddad became worse with his condition, and eventually he was put into a care home that specialises within dementia.

Due to his diagnosis of dementia and cases of several strokes, we began to see one another more frequently each week three years before my grandmother passed away and it was definitely precious time worth spent. Although I was spending more time with my granddad before things got worse; I started to pick up on his certain habits of him struggling to recall certain events that were happening at the time and problems concentrating or making decisions.

After months of doctor’s appointments we were finally left with a diagnosis and an information leaflet to support us. Although it was supportive in its own ways, it wasn’t supportive with the strain, time and effort that my mum and dad would be spending to care for my granddad after my grandmother passed. As my granddad’s condition progressed I began to realise that despite all the meetings with councillors and the consultations that I witnessed, nobody tells you the reality of this pure evil disease.

They don’t tell you how to deal with your grandfather attempting to throw punches at people, neither do they tell you how to deal with that on a day to day basis to the shop for the morning newspaper that he thinks he can just walk out and not pay for anything. Nobody tells you how to tell the shop owners and make them understand that my granddad has got dementia and aren’t encountering a frail thug of a shoplifter.

They don’t tell you how to deal with the crushing realisation that my granddad had forgotten that he even has an illness and thinks that you’re putting him in a home for the sake of it and asks if you even love him anymore. They don’t tell you that they will soon forget your name, and even who you are. Nobody tells you how to channel your anger when teenagers my age, are living their lives with healthy grades, a social life, and have proper telephone conversations with their healthy grandparents and yours resolves around a terminally ill, confused gentleman that worked hard all of his life and now can’t remember how to communicate in any way possible.

They don’t tell you that once he’s near the final stage that you will sit with him hours on end trying to tell him things like you’ve passed your driving test and have finally been offered a place at university, to just give you the last hope of making him proud.

Dementia stole the time that my parents, family, myself and friends were supposed to have with my grandfather John and I strongly think that the majority of young people in the UK aren’t aware enough of the disease and this is a real problem for the future.

People need to be aware that in the UK we are not prepared to cater for everyone with dementia in care homes and hospitals, people need to be aware that it might happen to a loved one, people need to be aware of the confused lady or man walking past them that might need some help in one way or another.

Alzheimer’s society and Dementia Friends can help you support and understand a bit more about the incurable disease and the small things you can do to help people with the condition. Whether that be helping someone find the right bus or being patient in a till queue if someone with dementia is taking longer to pay. All these little things helps someone’s life affected in some way.

Due to the recent study that has cropped up to find that dementia may be ‘linked’ to common over the counter drugs for conditions such as insomnia and hay fever. It’s important that the UK acts as a community, to spot signs of dementia and to make sure us young people know the ins and outs of the disease.

Want to help? There’s so many things you can do, to get involved and be a part of something that is something close to your heart, to be involved as a community, to support friends, family or even a colleague. No matter what your reason is, everyone is welcome to become a part of the charity.

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Last year I got involved with the memory walk at Rother Valley Country Park in Sheffield and raised over £200, this makes a massive difference to the organisation and can help fund anything from a patient having an arts class at their local care home to helping with travel or to be involved within an activity.

Here’s some top tips to get you to jump on the bandwagon and make a difference:

-Creating fundraising events within your local community or even spreading the word through uni life/societies and even in relation to uni work could make a great difference, either to create an opinion from another, express your experiences to others or to just generally make a difference for the future.

-Alzheimer’s Society hold fundraising memory walks each year all around the country. Last year over 33,000 walkers took part and together raised £1.8 million towards the fight against dementia.

-Get involved and become a volunteer: This might look good on your CV, but it can help someone a long way too. If you have a lot of spare time on your hands and want to help out instead of bingeing on a Netflix marathon, this could be a great cause to help someone.

-Talk to your Students’ Union: They may be able to help with any ideas that you’ve come up with and make your plans happen.

-Promote an event: this could help with the fundraising the way that you want to do it, this may be sports related, cake related or even fancy dress related!

-Campaign: Change the system of charging for care that currently discriminates against people with dementia.

-Donate: Every little penny helps towards the organisation.

-To find out more information on dementia and the memory walks visit: www.alzheimers.org.uk

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-Or become a dementia friend by signing up to www.dementiafriends.org.uk and get your free Dementia Friends pack that includes helpful tips and ideas.

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Sharney x