Post Graduate Depression

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Graduation is looming, the pressure of living at home with parents and still being stuck in the same dead-end job you had before you left uni can seem like the biggest step backwards and seem very overwhelming.

The job market sucks, education is our comfort blanket; after all, 14 years of being told what to do and having a structure in your life can seem a blessing when you’ve suddenly stopped and think what is the reason of today?

It’s not as easy as people make it look being in the real world compared to the virtual reality of social networks either. Lisa may have a fab job she always wanted and you may see this with all the swanky food porn dishes she puts on Instagram that makes our mouth water but is money or success really the key to happiness? You don’t know what happens behind closed doors maybe nothing, but still people can feel down and struggle in different situations.

Talking is hard, it can be vulnerable, naive and portrayed in the wrong way, not everyone is a good talker, therefore people may not understand and that just causes frustration and loneliness. Giving a voice to those doubts and fears may be a place of optimism, give yourself your own little place of thoughtful thinking, distract yourself by looking and applying for jobs, apply to be a volunteer for a cause that’s close to your heart, go for walks, start running, just try anything that you think will make you feel more motivated and positive.

Do something rather than nothing.

Advice doesn’t hurt, join a group, talk to a councillor,the quote ‘you never know if you don’t try’, might be a cliche, but it can help dramatically with someone who is suffering depression, anxiety or just feels low at this time in life.

Post graduate depression suffers 1 in 4 post grads so please remember you aren’t the only one that thinks what the fuck are you doing with your life, you are never too old to find out what you want to do and/or get to your dream place of satisfaction, success of thoughts and happiness.

A recent article from the Guardian states  “We’re just not very well designed for large changes, as post-university may be a time when many transitions happen at once, while also losing a support system of friends and tutors, it is unsurprising that this is a prime period for self-doubt”. Mike Burton, a psychiatrist, sees this post-university period as just one of many major life events that can bring about unease and anxiety.

University is a place for growth and finding who you are, then becoming disempowered once leaving is a shock to the system leaving you feel unnatural. The uncertainty of life can seem a negative thing but we need to recognise this as a new adventure, may be less colourful and more bland, but you make it how you want it.

I have to say, writing this post I honestly believe it has been one of the most daunting experiences I’ve gone through, but at least I’ve made progress in accepting the situation and I’m actually writing publicly about it.  Making plans for your life and believing you are succeeding to getting catapulted back to square one feels like you just need to wing it, cross your fingers and hope for the best and it gives me the worst anxiety.

Mental health is a massive issue in the UK and around the World, and I believe it needs to be talked about more due to lack of articles of Post Graduate Depression discussed in the Media and this is one of the reasons why I have wrote this post to get through to other Post Graduates that they aren’t the only people.

Being a newly graduated twenty-something surely you are to feel the heat due to average student’s debt of being around the £25,000 grand mark and the cost of living in London being the 4th highest in the World.

Although this may be true, it doesn’t mean that if a graduate does manage to bag a job they love that they won’t be struggling with pressures of their own, it’s a big step and takes a lot to adjust in such a short time of being in the real world but it feels like we need to adjust naturally yet automatically.

Work is completely different on a social scale too, you don’t instantly make friends, it takes time for people from work to start socialising outside of work, and sometimes not at all, but just stick at it and if you feel it’s not for you, hang on to the job until you find a career you would fit in with more. I know it’s not that easy but at least it’s a goal that I find myself willing to take.

Leaving education for good is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life, but surely it gets better. Only you can make a difference to your life nobody is going to save you from yourself, nobody knows what you want except you and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don’t get your own concept of success, so don’t give up.

If you’d like advice on mental health issues contact Mind or Samaritans for free advice.

Sharney x

 

PREPARING FOR THAT NEXT SEMESTER

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Preparing for that semester


It’s that time again. Start of a new semester and for some of you it will be moving to create a new life at University.

Being a uni student myself and being in my final year towards my Media degree, I thought I’d make a post that would be perfectly suitable advice for you freshers out there who are wondering what’s the basic essentials you need to take to your new home.

My first piece of advice to you is please don’t panic and take 101 things that you don’t necessarily need. Most universities tend to be just round the corner from lots of shops and high streets and if not you can virtually order anything to your doorstep so no need to worry.

It might be easier to buy things there to make a lighter journey for yourself and just take the vital ingredients that you can’t live without. Another thing to stress about is you are probably moving into a much smaller room than your bedroom at home so make sure to be prepared for this.

Before we move on to other parts of my list, I thought it was crucial to throw important documents into the guide first:

a– University admission acceptance letter

– Accommodation terms/contract (literally so important!)

– Passport/Driver’s licence and passport photos

– Debit card and bank details

– Student loan documents

– National Insurance number, exam certificates

– Student discount cards e.g: 16-25 rail card

Now you might be having flat parties and what not so speakers might be a big one for the list, however your flat mates will probably already have this so caring is sharing right?

bElectrical Essentials:

– Laptop or computer (library if needed)

– Ethernet cable

– Headphones: it can get a bit noisy in Halls believe me

– USB Stick

– Extension Cable

– Speakers

– Chargers

Academic Resources:

I think this is an obvious one, everything from pens to notebooks, diaries, books to calculators even a dictaphone you name it.

Preparing for that semester 3The most requested thing from a student is knowing what to take for the kitchen… Be very careful what to take as items can and will probably go unused so some of it will be pretty useless so don’t take or purchase anything too expensive.

Preparing for that semester 2Kitchen Essentials:

– A students guide to cooking is literally one of the best things you can purchase for the kitchen, learn how to make affordable hearty meals.

– A wok

– One saucepan

– 1 sharp knife along with a cutlery set

– Scissors

– One plate and bowl

– Two mugs and two glasses

– Flat baking tray

– Lunch box

– A collinder

– A baking dish


So throughout my two year journey at Sheffield Hallam I’ve been in Student Halls, and one big must have is to purchase the comfiest bedding and pillows. You will be spending a hella’ lot of time in your room believe me, so make sure it’s the best.

Preparing for that semester 1Bedroom Essentials:

– A mattress protector is seriously so vital to have, you don’t know who’s been in that bed before you

– To make it that more homely bring posters and photos of friends and family, why not hang them up with some fairy lights and give your room a pretty uplift.

– Bed sheets, duvet and pillows

– Coat hangers

– Laundry bag

– Ear plugs


Make sure you have all your home comforts with you and I know for sure mine are definitely for the bathroom after a hard day at work or that long, cold walk home…

Preparing for that semester 4Bathroom Essentials:

– Towels

– Toiletries

– Bleach and cleaning products

– First aid kit

– Toilet roll

– Wash bag: shampoo/conditioner, toothbrush/toothpaste, shower gel and make up essentials

Preparing for that semester 5 So this is my guide to you for those that are planning to live at University, I hope you like it and if you have any questions don’t hesitate to drop a comment below, I’d be more than happy to help. Click on the photos for Pinterest tips!

Sharney x